10 Myths/Facts About Extroverts (Remake)

I received some feedback regarding a previous post about 10 Myths/Facts About Extroverts. This is a remake. Feel free to leave me a message with your thoughts.

Myth #1 – Extroverts like to talk and can’t be silent.

Extroverts are more comfortable to talk about their thoughts out loud, but they are not necessarily inconsiderate of other people’s needs. They know when to be quiet, what to say and when to listen in different situations. However, sometimes extroverts may appear to be talking too much and that comes off as being arrogant.

Myth #2 – Extroverts need to be the center of attention.

Extroverts are generally more outgoing, confident and sociable, so they naturally draw more attention to themselves. However, they are not purposely trying to attract attention. They just want to connect more with others.

Myth #3 – Extroverts enjoy public speaking.

Even though extroverts are perceived to be more confident and sociable, they have the same fear as anyone when speaking in public. They are sometimes afraid that they will not meet the expectations of their peers.

Myth #4 – Extroverts love meeting people.

Even though extroverts do get more energy being around others and enjoy connecting, they are also human. There are people they definitely do not want to meet and they too have their own insecurities and want to be alone sometimes. Interacting excessively with others can also tire them out.

Myth #5 – Extroverts don’t want to be alone.

Just because extroverts are perceived to enjoy being in the company of others and are usually seen with other people, there are times when extroverts need to be alone. Too much interactions and relationships can bring them drama and they need to get away from that.

Myth #6 – Extroverts have a lot of energy.

Extroverts may appear to have a lot of energy when around others, but when they are by themselves they are just as drained as an introvert in a social situation. Again, they are just human too and run on the same amount of fuel.

Myth #7 – Extroverts don’t need time to recharge energy.

Even though extroverts may love communicating with people, they need a break too. Just because they can talk to people for a long period of time do not mean they are machine.
Myth #8 – Extroverts are not shy.

Extroverts may not get shy easily in social situations, but they can get shy too. If you put an extrovert in a environment they don’t have much experience with, they can get shy as well.

Myth #9 – Extroverts don’t have close friends, but a lot of acquaintances.

Even though extroverts are more likely to participate in social events and make more acquaintances, they too have close friends.

Myth #10 – Extroverts don’t care what others think.

Even though extroverts may appear more confident in social situations, they are still sensitive to the opinions and criticisms of other

 

10 Myths and Facts about Introvert

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.

This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.

Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.

Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.

On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.

Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.

Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.

Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.

Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.

Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.

A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

Source: http://www.carlkingdom.com/10-myths-about-introverts

Pertanyaan Mengenai Arab Saudi

Ketika mendengar tentang Arab Saudi, pikiran saya langsung berpendapat bahwa ini merupakan negara yang suci. Negara tanpa dosa.

Namun belakangan ini saya punya beberapa pertanyaan yang belum bisa saya temukan jawabannya:

  1. Arab Saudi adalah negera sangat kaya. Semua negera seakan menyembah untuk mendapatkan minyak darinya. Namun mengapa negara kaya raya ini tidak kaya akan riset? Seolah-olah tidak menggunakan kecerdasannya. Apakah mereka telah nyaman dalam kekayaannya (comfort zone)? Mungkinkah mereka berpikir bahwa tidak ada gunanya mengeluarkan uang banyak untuk riset karena semua kebenaran ujung-ujungnya ada di al-quran?
  2. Mengapa Arab Saudi menolak pengungsi dari Suriah di tahun 2016? Malahan Jerman yang menerima pengungsi tersebut padahal Jerman (disebut muslim) sebagai negara kafir. Apakah Arab Saudi takut ideologi ISIS meracuni rakyatnya? Jika demikian, apakah ini pertanda rapuhnya keimanan dan ketaqwaan mereka hingga mudah di brainwash? Bagaimana dengan gosip bahwa Jerman meneroma pengungsi karena mereka misionaris? Jadi, lebih kuat pemikiran misionaris daripada pemikiran dakwah Islam itu sendiri?

 

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Kisah ini berasal dari pantai Pangandaran. Bahkan mungkin juga akan berakhir di Pangandaran. Seorang anak kecil suka berdiri di sana. Matanya memandang lepas ke lautan. Membayangkan dirinya menjadi seorang ahli kelautan suatu saat. Memiliki kapal selam agar bisa menyelidiki sendiri rahasia di kedalaman. Kini perempuan itu sudah dewasa. Ia tumbuh dalam terpaan angin dan udara lautan. Itu yang membuatnya terlihat lebih matang dan perkasa. Meski demikian, tak ada yang berubah dari penampilannya. Masih tetap dengan rambut ikal yang kadang membuatnya terlihat sensual. Masih suka memandang lautan. Tapi ia bukanlah ahli kelautan seperti cita-citanya. Ia lah penguasa hasil laut dengan teknologi termodern di Indonesia yang kini beranjak ingin menguasai udara. Perempuan yang sudah berdaya itu bernama Susi Pudjiastuti.

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Understanding the Kinesthetic Relating Style

Kinesthetic people like to engage in affectionate rough housing, as well as being held for long periods of time.

Kinesthetic persons often use terms such as these in conversation:

• “I just felt as if…”
• “I’ll handle it.”
• “I feel like we really connected.”
• “Take it easy.”

Physical contact and feelings are their primary love language. Kinesthetic people often feel overwhelmed or feel picked on in a verbal conflict.

When communicating with a kinesthetic oriented person, a soft touch on the arm means you care, you’re interested, and you’re listening. Often the kinesthetic person will touch you as they are speaking as well.

In the work field, a handshake is often offered and expected by a kinesthetic person. Not only is a handshake proper and a sign of respect to the kinesthetic person, but it is also a personal connection. In addition, they may put their arm around your shoulders while walking and talking. This is how they communicate and connect.

Kinesthetic people are hard to motivate, however, because they often can’t get past how they’re feeling in the moment. They are very emotionally driven and often let their emotions control their actions. Kinesthetic oriented persons also react to gut instincts and tend not to base decisions on reason or logic.

Kinesthetic Relating in Love Relationships

In a relationship with a kinesthetic oriented person, if you don’t touch them often, they may not feel loved by you. They may feel rejected and not even know why.

If your loved one is saying things like, “You never touch me,” or “You never cuddle with me anymore,” their love tank may be empty. Fill it up with some meaningful and long snuggles on the couch, a big bear hug or a nice back massage. Then keep their hearts filled by giving them the touching, hugging, and snuggling they are thirsting for.

Understanding the Three Different Relating Styles

It’s important in all relationships, including your spouse, children, siblings, friends or co-workers, to understand the different relating styles, as well as how to communicate effectively using them.

Visual

For the visually oriented person, using picture words is the best way to communicate. The best gifts for the visually oriented person are tangible gifts, or one’s they can actually “see” such as:

• Books
• Cards or notes
• Flowers

When speaking to the visually oriented person, look them directly in the eye and expect to be “examined” by them as well. Be aware of your body language and facial expressions, as they’ll be determining if they trust what you’re saying based on those two elements.

Auditory

For the auditory oriented person, communicating in soft tones and positive affirmations says you care and are interested in them. The best gifts for the auditory oriented person are:

• Music
• Audio books
• Concerts

Verbal communication is very important to the auditory oriented person. They process issues or problems by talking them out. If the auditory oriented person doesn’t hear the words “I love you” frequently enough, they may not feel loved.

How to Tell Which Type of Person You’re Dealing With

Knowing how to determine someone’s relating style is important and can usually be determined in the first few minutes after meeting for the first time. If the person looks you directly in the eye or seems to “look you up and down,” they’re visual. If they do most of the talking right away, they’re most likely an auditory type of person. If they touch you on the arm or reach for a handshake immediately, they’re kinesthetic.

 

Source: http://www.mindreality.net/understanding-the-kinesthetic-relating-style